You get hit multiple times because you haven't joined an established alliance.

Farming is accepted on this server, like it or not.

Missile retals are not accepted forms of retal unless you are at war.

Hitting countries outside of those that hit you as a retal is unacceptable.

Finally, while accepted and fun, missling my country results in death.

These terms may vary tag to tag, but these are accepted on this server.