Agree that special attacks should probably not count on country:country DR, so that if you vanquish someone in war it's not then impossible for you, and only for you, to get any land off them afterwards.

Topfeeds suck but as I posted elsewhere, I think when GDI is broken between two countries, the smaller country should have the option to turn off the humanitarians by declaring war. This would circumvent the "farm and jump out of range" abuse of humanitarian protections that I frequently do, and give the minnows the chance to fight back against those who farm them. This also allows the big country to then attack them some more, but at least it lets them throw a few punches. There should obviously also be some restrictions as to when they can declare peace afterwards.